Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
Overview
- In this step you will review your Step 8 Inventory with your sponsor.
- You will discuss any amends you are willing to make
- You will discuss and plan any amends that you will make face-to-face
- You will write letters to those that you can’t make amends to or where it might cause damage to yourself or them.
Reading
- Read Step Nine in “Step Into Action”
- Highlight anything that hits you deeply
- Write a word or two in the margin as to Why?
- Read Members of SA Share in “Step Into Action”
- Highlight anything that hits you deeply
- Write a word or two in the margin as to Why?
- Read Questions to Consider in “Step Into Action”
- Just read and think about the questions.
Writing
Read Step Into Action Step Nine in “Step Into Action”
- Reflect and set up a time to get together with your sponsor to review your 8th step and discuss.
Sample Letter
Dear [name] –
I am writing you to complete a process that is part of my healing and recovery from some things that have hounded me nearly my entire life. I wish to acknowledge them and ask your forgiveness for something that I remember that I was responsible for.
[Describe the situation]
I have come to realize the damage that I have in me from my sexual addiction and the sexual behaviors that I was involved in. I know that I contributed to the same in you. I ask for your forgiveness. But you are not obligated in any way to respond or even to let me know. That is entirely up to you and is not expected.
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
[Your name]
[Your contact information]
Files
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